Sunday, February 1, 2015

Sunday Scribbles #2: Q&A

Another Sunday has come, and this time I am snuggled up in my bed while the wind HOWLS outside. It sounds like a right tornado out there! Pinecone is laying peacefully in a cat loaf on the bed as only deaf Pinecones can do. So... Q&A's. Let's go. 

Question:
@MmeBeautyAddict asked, "When you and Alex are both in LA are you most of the time at his place or at yours?"

Answer:

We are lucky to live quite close to each other which is a blessing in LA traffic, and we definitely enjoy hanging out at both houses, but I would have to say mine about 80% of the time. He has housemates, and I don't, so we have more privacy and our own space when we are at my place. Plus, complete control over the TV remote!

Question: 

@NutellaNitKaese asked, "What are you putting in your planner other than stickers since you can't go anywhere?" 

Answer:
I actually laughed a bit over this question because it's the same one Jelly asked me last night. "Elle," she said, "what exactly are you putting inside of those things you carry around with you? I saw them on Instagram." Well, when you are a normal un-broken human living your life, doing things and going places, you have many many more things to put inside of a planner. 
I however, have never used a planner as much as a time juggling tool as I have as a way to form out my day. Let me explain.

When you are a mother juggling a job and a husband and 3 kids, all with different schedules, along with keeping the house clean and paying the bills and cooking dinner every night, a planner is necessary to actually juggle your time management. You might have to plan your dinners around which extra curricular activity a certain kid has on a certain night, or you might have to schedule a drink with a friend a month in advance to make sure you can get a babysitter in time. For people like these, a planner is something that is a tool to help them balance their life. It is a planner in every since of the word. 

These days, especially within the FaceBook planner community, people use planners for anything and everything. Some people have 5 or more planners going at any given time, one just for doodles, another for fitness, and yet another for budgeting, etc, etc. Planners aren't necessarily for time management alone anymore. I almost see it as a baby between scrapbooking and planning... it's just that people have kept the name "planner" for it. 

I've seen people decorate their planner pages when they have literally nothing happening that week. "It's a nothing week," they say, as they proudly show off their decorated planner pages. The point is, people do whatever they want with their planner within this community, and it's all accepted and understood. 

Going back to your specific question, I have been using mine as a to do list every day. I have things like "work on taxes" "physical therapy" "doctor's appointment" and "organize desk". I plan out blog content and have started working on planning out my YouTube comeback which will happen when I am healed enough. I write out my back homework, which is given to me after each PT appointment, my cleaning schedule, like when to wash my towels and sheets, and which city Alex has been in each day of his tour. I even track my water intake since that's been extremely important with all the medicine I am on for my back. Here is an example of what mine looks like:

Erin Condren Life Planner
Grocery lists, video idea lists, lists about lists... they all go inside of my planner. My body is not at its best right now but my mind is still whirling at a million miles a minute. My planner somehow calms that down, and I love that. 

Question: 
@annaschmidt23 asked, "What do you want your future to look like? Do you want to get married and have kids? Are you still going to do YouTube?"

Answer:

I definitely want to get married and have kids. 100%. I don't want kids right away; I think ideally I would have a couple years just with my husband to enjoy each other and travel before settling down with children. That being said, life happens. If it happens another way, I'll be ok with that. If I have a honeymoon baby I'll just be like, "Well, that's the way it was supposed to be then!"

I'm not stopping YouTube anytime soon, so yeah I imagine I will still be doing videos. Far down the road I could see myself starting to transfer over to my blogs full time but that's quite a ways off. I think being a mommy blogger would be quite fun, when the time comes. That's a long ways off though ;)

Question:
@allthatjuicy21 asked, "What TV Shows are you loving right now?"

Answer:
Currently these are the shows that are airing right now that I'm watching: Grey's (I am so happy that this just came back this week because I missed it!), Reign, The Vampire Diaries, The Bachelor (loving this season!), Married at First Sight: The First Year, and The Fosters. I dabble in Pretty Little Liars but it's never been my favorite show. I could take it or leave it. (I know, I'm sure that comes as a big surprise, most people LOVE that show.)

Question:
@LindaBloggt asked, "How do you deal with bad days? Sometimes it's so hard to leave the bed because everything is just a little too much."

Answer:

This question makes my heart hurt because I can feel the pain coming from it. I actually wrote a tumblr post about this a few years back. I will link it here for you; I feel it's worth the read.

"Do you ever have bad days? Do you ever cry?"
I am not perfect. I have bad days. I cry. I get upset. I get emotional, and unmotivated, and sad. I’m human. But… I also have amazing days. Beautiful, inspiring, happy days. Days that make me think, “I am so lucky”. And it’s those days that I choose to hold on to and cherish, rather than to hold on to the bad ones. 
I am lucky enough to be able to reach out through the internet and talk to lots and lots of people. And I choose, quite intentionally, to share positive and happy videos and ideas. Nothing would make me happier than knowing that I am doing what I can to make someones day a little more cheerful… so that’s what I do. It makes me happy to know I might be making someone else happy. 
We are lucky enough to get to choose how we want to portray ourselves, and behave on the internet. I am a big believer in “Internet Karma”, and that if you spread happiness you will get it in return. If you spread hate… then that’s on you. 
One of my best friends once taught me something. I was having a rough day, during my first year of college, and she explained to me her secret for happiness. She told me that the way she lives her life is this; that as long as she gets her work done, and cares for the people around her and herself, she does whatever she wants to, whenever she wants to. And it made me think… it seems like such an obvious piece of advice, but a lot of people do not take it. Think about it. Have you had days where you have completed your basic responsibilities, but you have 100 other “secondary” responsibilities that are stressing you out so badly that you can’t even think straight. And all you want to do is curl up in bed and read the new book you got. Most people wouldn’t even consider putting their secondary responsibilities on hold to curl up and read, thinking it lazy when you have other things to do, but that hour you would have spent reading might have enabled you to go about your day in a much happier way. It’s those little things that you let yourself do that can affect happiness long term.
So next time you want to read, or take a bubble bath, or go for a walk outside, or watch a movie, or hang out with a friend, but you say no to yourself because you have “to much to do” (granted, this doesn’t include your main responsibilities… you should do those), consider treating yourself. And then doing it again the next time. And the next.
If your sadness is affecting your everyday happiness and your ability to complete the things you must do (like school or a job) then I would seek medical help. You could have depression or any other form of a mental health disorder in which your brain is simply not producing the right chemicals, and there is nothing wrong with that. I'm not a doctor, so I encourage you to go see one. He or she should be able to help you.

That being said, if this isn't affecting your ability to live your life, and it's just unhappiness every now and then, just remember that you're human, and humans are unhappy sometimes. We all have days where the world seems sad and overwhelming even if nothing is "wrong". Especially women, with our hormones bouncing all around. 

I believe in giving into your feelings when you can. When you have gotten your "must have" work done, give yourself a break. I call them "mental health days" and everyone needs them every now and then. Sometimes I just have an overwhelming urge to cry, so I give into that feeling by putting on a movie I know will be a tear jerker or reading Chicken Soup for the Cat Lover's Soul (any "Chicken Soup" book is guaranteed to make me cry). Let yourself feel your emotions fully so that you can work through them. This works for me, and I hope it works for you too. Remember no matter what that there are people out there that love you! I love you, for one! :)
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There you go! I hope you enjoyed this Q&A post... leave me a comment with feedback about this blog or any of these questions in particular; I read every single comment! <3

37 comments:

  1. Loved the advice on bad days. Ive been a follower for 5 years Elle, and even when you are a "mommy blogger" I will still read your posts :) Much love from Canada, and I hope you're feeling better and healed up soon!

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  2. God bless you, Elle. You are seriously a blessing and I am glad you use your prominence for good. You are raw, real, and down to earth. Your advice on the last question was perfectly sound, which is coming from someone who suffers from clinical depression and anxiety disorder. Also, your planner answer was just perfect! You're such a bright, beautiful woman, and I commend you for all that you do. -Kelly, 21

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  3. Elle! Quick question! Where are those pens from? :)

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  4. Hi Elle! Thank you so much for answering my question! Also i am so happy that you take so much time on your answers to these questions! Not a lot of people would go into so much detail to answer questions! I hope you are feeling better! Also, how is that bug that Pinecone "befriended"? Say hi to Pinecone from me! Thanks again!
    Love,
    Anna

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  5. the excitement I get when I see your posts on my blogllovin feed :) I love reading and watching you and I've been not very busy so my planner is kind of empty with just stickers and you have just given me ideas. maybe a to-do list will keep me from laying in bed all day :) are you going to announce the stickers giveaway winner soon? I really want to know if I got lucky or not.
    xoxo
    http://diaryofashoeaholic.wordpress.com/
    http://www.bloglovin.com/blog/12642363

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  6. Love your Sunday Scribbles! Found this one good, because you sound like me in that I can't do too much these days, and so I put my "to do" list in my planner. Also, on having bad days, thank you for your advice. Although I usually feel guilty for taking time off, I almost always set aside evenings, and Sundays are my Sabbath. Can't wait for next post! <3

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  7. Your sunday scribbles are so fun to read! I hope you heal fast and get better soon! Take care! Xxx

    www.allyouneedisredlipstick.com

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  8. Loved this blog post Elle! There are a lot of good YouTubers & bloggers out there, but I have to say, you're my favorite one! I'm dying to see a planner video go up on your account! May or may not check like everyday...... haha.

    Blessings xo
    Dandy

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  9. I love these types of posts! The planner question made me laugh out loud because I have multiple planners (some just for doodles and stuff)! The advice about bad days was so insightful and just really awesome. Hope physical therapy is going well for you!
    -Sisi
    Modern Beauty Girl
    Other Modern Girl

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  10. I love this so much Elle! You're such a wonderful person. You've given me so much inspiration throughout the years and it truly feels lovely to come home after a long day and be greeted with a fun and charming little blog post or video. And lol at "cat loaf." I used that term for about an hour for everything rofl! Adorable. :D

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  11. Love this post so much! I like all the planner stuff as well. cant wait on you doing more on that! An I also like how you also help people and give people advice that are maybe a little depressed. I think the way you carry yourself on here being a sort of "Celebrity" in life is really good. There are some people I would hate my kid to look up to. But your not one of them :) well done is all I can say.
    Lx
    Http://workingmumy.blogspot.com

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  12. Loved this. I've been watching you for a long time, and started youtube because of you, and now I'm a full time blogger. Thanks for being an inspiration, fellow AXO.
    www.divaandthedivine.com

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  13. This is so lovely! It's nice to get inspiration from you, and considering yourself lucky to have all the things we do have and the potential to grow everyday. We have friends, family and shelter - some people don't have it as easy as us, and it's truly important to cherish what we do have.
    You're planner is looking great, by the way! I love the colour, pictures and the arrow is the cutest paperclip ever!
    Hope you have a fabulous day! <3
    xoxo,

    BerryBloomXO.com | Beauty & Lifestyle Blog 
    also on BLOGLOVIN 

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  14. I call my puppy a loaf of bread when he lays down like pinecone is! His colouring is kind of tan too so it fits.
    I wish you all the best as you continue with your physical therapy, even days that seem like you may not be getting better are still steps forward. 💜

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  15. Hi Elle on Instagram you put a picture up of tour Kate spade Wellesley wallet/plannerqnd I was wondering if you could please do a blog post on it. You could show us which one you have maybe put a link to it and then list some (or all if you feel up to it) of the things you may have for/on it :) I just loved the picture and think it's so beautiful especially with your sticker addiction ;) and could you also in the future show us some more of your favourite sticker people please :) I hope you are feeling better and recovering nicely :)

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  16. Lovely post, these are some of my favourite's to read as I love feeling like I'm getting to know you better!
    www.missmollyemma.blogspot

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  17. Giggling at cat loaf! Pinecone is too cute!! Thanks for sharing Elle, I have a planner but I feel like I really need to use it more fully now! Hope you're recovering 😀
    thelittlemrsme.blogspot

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  18. I've been loving these Q&A posts! Keep doing them!
    http://emandlivs.blogspot.com

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  19. Great post, love reading your Q&A's :) B x

    www.beatricelily.com

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  20. Great post :) I hope you're feeling better soon. I miss your videos.

    maritimemax.blogspot.ca

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  21. I understand about transferring over to blogs from youtube. Lately I'm feeling a little over watching youtube videos and enjoying blogs so much more. You can find more thoughtful pieces and get to the good stuff faster so to speak. I have a cat and design blog I think you might like. I also have a Persian Cornelius :-)
    www.meowlifestyle.com

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  22. You're such an inspiration Elle! Love reading all your posts!

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  23. Loved reading this post! It was very inspiring in how to deal with sad days, as we all encounter them. I think it is how you handle them and move on which is important! Hope your back is healing up good!! :)

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  24. Hi Elle,
    I am so glad I stumbled upon your videos, and then subsequently, onto your blog! Although I am older, with two teenagers, I am very much interested in fashion, makeup, décor, etc. which I think you do a great job with. I love your gentle and kind personality, which shines through everything you do, and kudos to you for making this career a success for you. It takes a lot of self-discipline, innovation, and commitment to do this well and have this many subscribers. Don't let any of those negative comments dissuade you: just remember, "hurt people hurt people", and so all those negative comments are coming from unhappy people. Just look past it to the positive comments! Lots of love and hopefully a quick recovery, from Canada, xoxo Petra

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  25. Elle, I just want you to know that I am absolutely in love with your blog posts. I check everyday for a new one (even though I am aware that probably won't happen) and am so excited when a new one is out. Ill admit that I do miss your youtube videos, but your blog posts and your twitter (love your light night rambles by the way) make me feel like I am right there with you. Feel better soon!

    Erica

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  26. I loved seeing the inside of your planner Elle! I am obsessed with planning too, I feel so disorganized without it! And glad to hear you are planning to stick with blogging for awhile. It's such a fun creative outlet, and I think you are doing so great with yours!

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  27. Elle, you really are such an inspiration. I have most likely told you this multiple times, and will most likely say it again in the future. You are in a position to help out MANY MANY people and I see you doing that time and time again. Thank you. Thank you very much.

    xoxo,

    Madison

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  28. Loving these type of posts! :D

    andreiaviera.blogspot.co.uk

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  29. Hey Elle!
    I love reading you're posts because I love how much detail and thought you put into your answer. I just have a few questions...... what is your horoscope? how do you make a blog like yours with you're own website because i wanted to make something really similar. Thxxxxxxxx
    xoxo,
    Hana

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  30. Hey Elle, where did you get your hydration sticker from?

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  31. I really enjoyed this post a lot thanks for the encouragement!! I really needed to hear (read) that. You made some good points about taking that little time for yourself.

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  32. You have no idea of the many many times you´ve cheered me up. No, I don´t have real problems (thankfully) but, as you said, we all have those days in which we just feel a little sad, worried or scared. You are a really bright person, Elle, and I hope you always shine :)♥

    Gabi

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  33. What is the FaceBook planner community of which you speak? I've tried looking it up, but I can't find anything for the life of me! Any specific groups or pages? Thanks!

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  34. Elle, I absolutely adored your response to the final question. It was flawless and I wish I had someone like you to say that to me when I was younger!!

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  35. I think you have gotten me onto a new addiction. I've always loved planners and stickers, but had mostly Lilly Pulitzer ones. Now you've opened up a new planner/sticker world to me :) I have always loved reading your blogs, facebook posts, watching your videos, since you were new on youtube. If I need inspiration of any kind or a relaxing video to watch, I've went to your channel. It's like a huge pink hug. Thank you so much for sharing your life, your ideas, your family, your beauty, inside and out. <3

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